Episode 034 – Strong Coffee Strong Women™ with Leah Guy
“There is no cosmic trash can. We can’t just toss what we don’t like about ourselves away. It’s uncomfortable work but we have to do it if we want to heal.”
“There is no cosmic trash can. We can’t just toss what we don’t like about ourselves away. It’s uncomfortable work but we have to do it if we want to heal.”
Leah Guy is an inspirational speaker, intuitive healer, and author of 3 self-care books. Her latest is Overcoming Toxic Emotions: A Practical Guide to Building Better Relationships with Yourself and Others.
Leah uses her own personal experience and triumphs over anxiety, sexual assault, and addiction to help others heal.
Her courses and events have helped thousands of people around the world and you can hear more from Leah on her Modern Sage Podcast.
In this episode, Leah gives her thoughts on the possible damage that the letting go narrative can cause. She talks about turning the darkness we may be experiencing into light and so much more.
Until next time, be nice and do good stuff.
- Overcoming Toxic Emotions: A Practical Guide to Building Better Relationships with Yourself and Others
- Spiritual Journal for Women: Mindfulness, Gratitude, and Meditation Prompts to Reconnect With Yourself
- The Fearless Path: A Radical Awakening to Emotional Healing and Inner Peace
Leah Guy is a new thought leader and expert in emotional healing and spiritual growth. She’s authored three book, the latest being Overcoming Toxic Emotions, A Practical Guide to Building Better Relationships with Yourself and Others. She uses her personal triumphs over sexual abuse, addiction, anxiety and eating disorders, along with more than two decades of experience in private practice helping people transform their lives.
Leah has appeared on hundreds of top outlets as an expert on meditation, the mind-body connection, mindfulness, energy medicine and emotional and spiritual healing.
Also known as The Modern Sage, Leah is the owner of Modern Sage product line and podcast. For more, visit LeahGuy.com, or social @leahguylive.
[00:00:00] Chris: All right, time to unset. How you doing today? How you feeling? That’s enough small talk. Let’s get after it.
Hey everybody, welcome to the show, episode 34. I hope you are all fantastic. Today is Strong Coffee Strong Women. I got my Java. I hope you got your Java. The guest today is host of the Modern Sage Podcast and an inspirational speaker. Leah Guy is also an intuitive healer and author of three self-care books.
Her latest is Overcoming Toxic Emotions, a Practical Guide to Building Better Relationships with yourself and others. Leah uses her own personal experience and triumphs over anxiety. Sexual assault and addiction to help others heal. Her courses and events have helped thousands of people around the world.
I have known this woman for almost 20 years and have watched her work her magic on so many. I’m thrilled she could join me, and I hope you enjoy today’s conversation with Leah Guy. Um, I know you’re, you’re probably tired of, of telling your origin story at all, but like how did it get started for you, this intuitive stuff?
When, when did you. There was something different for to you. When did all this get going?
[00:01:19] Leah Guy: Well, I think I knew, like a lot of children know, uh, when I was a child, but I didn’t know it was different. I just, it kind of scared me in a way. And I also did, I felt alone with it because I recognized no one else was talking about, you know, talking to angels or seeing things that other people aren’t seeing.
But I didn’t give it much thought or energy at that time. Um, when I was older, my whole healing journey started for my own. And it was at that time I was unraveling a lot of stuff within myself. And while I was unraveling, I was also learning actually at a school in California how to channel, how to meditate, how to read energy, how to see energy and so forth.
So it was like this massive purge and download all at the same time. I was probably 23, 20. Around that time and, um, used, used it in my work off and on, you know, throughout, throughout my career. But probably in the last five, 10 years I just said, you know, I’m just gonna lean, lean all the way in here and whoever this is for, I’ll share it.
And those that don’t like it.
[00:02:35] Chris: Yeah. So was there, when you did your first book, The Fearless Path, – like that to me when I watched you from afar was like this, um, meteoric little rise. Like, it, it all of a sudden, like, it seemed like your journey that you were on just kind of came together and cohered at that moment and then bang, it all just kind of took off.
So I was wondering if that was, if there was one big moment or if it was just a couple of little gestures that, that, or a couple of, um, things that, that triggered you down that road.
[00:03:39] Leah Guy: Well, it’s interesting when I reflect back, I think as, um, as we do, I was chasing shit for a long time in my life. That’s how I met you.
I wasn’t chasing you, but I met you chasing an audition or chasing a job, you know, doing what I thought I wanted to do to make everything be okay, to make everything be right and to be accepted. And so, And at a certain point after I’d lived up in the New York area for, I don’t know, probably 10 or 12 years, I had become so exhausted with that chase.
And not just the chasing, but also the doing. You know, I had my own talk show and the running around the celebrities and the parties and this and that, and. And I was just like, I, this is not fulfilling for me. And so there was a point where I made a conscious decision that I don’t wanna do that anymore and I’m gonna open a healing center because I saw the need in my area.
And I think that that kind of conscious thought to serve and to step more fully into what I’d already been doing for 20 years, but kind of on the side or kind of in different, you know, more commercialized ways. When I made that decision, I one, not only stepped more fully into the decision, but I allowed that part of myself to expand and move out.
The part of me that was chasing and that was, um, trying to show up as something else for people, you know? So I guess I stopped, stepped into my authentic authenticity, but also with that was the, the, um, impetus to serve and, and help others truly in a healing way. Right.
[00:05:24] Chris: And just to let people know, you and I met back, and I think it was 2004, you were acting in a spot.
I was. We were, we were, I was in Nashville. And you were acting in one of. Our spots. You, you had been an actress for a long time and you had your own television show. You were kind of on you and, and that career path is so fraught with, um, you know, I’ll use the word toxicity. It’s overused, but it’s a pretty toxic environment.
You’re constantly and hustling and, and chasing is a great word. And when you’re producing your own show, the, the work amount of work that goes into. Is incredible. So, um, I want to know your latest book, overcoming Toxic Emotions, A Practical Guide to Building Better Relationships with Yourself and others.
When this is your third book, right? Um, when you finish a book, do you, did, did you learn anything more about yourself when you finished that book? I find I’ve written a few books and I find that every time I finish a book, I learned something about myself cuz they say all writing’s personal, right? You can be writing non-fiction, fiction, whatever, but you are gonna come through in that book.
With this book. Um, did you learn anything new about Leah?
[00:06:36] Leah Guy: Um, yes. I wanna first start by saying I don’t feel like a writer. I don’t identify that way. I don’t like it, and it feels, it feels like a massive bowel movement every time I do it right.
[00:06:54] Chris: Writing is hard, man. Writing is hard.
[00:06:57] Leah Guy: I, it’s not, I never, ever, throughout my life set out or thought I’m gonna write a book or I’m gonna, I’m gonna be a writer, so, so every time I do it, I learn a lot about myself.
Primarily how much I had to say that I didn’t even, wasn’t even that aware of, that I was holding within myself energetically and mentally and so forth. And also the tenacity. I think those, the writing projects that I’ve done have showed me and taught me how to. Stick with something, you know, in a real way because as I said, you know, part of my trauma was I’m gonna run away from this.
And I did that for years. So the sticking with, it’s so uncomfortable to ride through something from beginning to end. I mean, it’s so uncomfortable and it. Not just a book. It’s uncomfortable on a canvas. It’s uncomfortable in a relationship. It’s uncomfortable, you know, in a home. It’s, it’s just uncomfortable.
It’s the same kind of discomfort that I think that we experience as human beings just riding through this life. It’s just more condensed, you know, when we give it these little names and projects and so forth. So I think for myself, it really helped ground me and, and reveal. Um, that kind of tenacity. But, and always what it does for me is it connects me.
I’m never writing for myself. I’m never writing cuz I feel like I have to do this. Well, I do, I do feel like I have to do it, but I’m writing for the people to read it. So to me it’s the, it’s an immediate connection even if I don’t know all the people who read it. Um, it’s a weird way to be connected, but I find it to be very connect.
[00:08:46] Chris: Well, yeah, that’s a great question because, you know, even as a writer, I, I don’t, I also don’t identify as a writer, but I hate to break it to you. You’ve written three books. You’re a writer, part of you, part of you is a writer. It’s just another facet to your diamond. Okay? So, um, but I don’t, I, I enjoy the, I’m one of those crazies that enjoys the process.
I love to write, but. I find that it teaches even when you’re writing for other people or to serve other people, that’s a great way to say it, right? You, you are writing it because you have something within you that you want to get out, but you want to get it out in a way of service. So you, you reach so many more people that way, even if you don’t know or they don’t respond, or they don’t send you an email, if they’ve read your words, they’re connecting with your journey because your journey, you know, Your trauma you talk about is, it goes back, right?
You, you, you’ve got sexual trauma, you’ve got, you talk about addiction, you talk about all this stuff. So there are a lot of people that are going through that that don’t have the courage yet to surface, but you’re giving him that courage. So, I mean, um, do you, I, I know there’s a, there’s something I want to get to there, but,
Do you ever have like these massive days where you yourself feel that you just, you just don’t have the shit to get through the day? Oh
[00:10:18] Leah Guy: yeah. I had one yesterday.
[00:10:22] Chris: How, when you are the expert on something, how does the expert get through that? How do you get through those days? Yeah.
[00:10:28] Leah Guy: Um, I think I get through it the same way everyone else does.
Meaning I allow myself, I give myself permiss. To be human, to be flawed, to feel like crap, to struggle to do all the things. I’m very clear after having done this for a long time, of how I show up to the world, and I’m aware that people like myself can show up and look like, you know, um, some kind of fake or ideal or personified pizza, candy, or something like, oh, it’s all shiny and bright, and I try to be authentic because I know that that’s b.
But it’s not BS entirely because when I show up to my work, whether it’s at a table working with someone or teaching online to hundreds of people, there’s a part of me that rises up, you know? And to me, that’s my higher self kind of rising up and showing up for the occasion. And I trust those moments.
Now, I don’t plan out and script out everything I’m gonna say. I mean, I outline it and you know, have the pointers, but I trust. That, that what I’m doing there is meaningful and it’s beyond me, and so that I can show up and be at the highest level of myself and vibration as possible. And because I trust that, I also trust that when I’m at home, like I was, I think it was yesterday or other day before, and I feel like absolute crap and I’m anxious or jittery or depressed, or don’t wanna get up or just teary however I feel, I trust that I can feel that too.
And that I can hold my space. You know, I talk a lot in my work about reparenting or different ways we show up for herself, and I let myself go there. And I also trust that I will reach out to people who can help me the same way I’m, I’m helping other people. So that’s why, I mean, I have an appointment tomorrow.
I’m so excited. I can’t wait. Um, it’s time to get to these deep nuggets that. Have resurfaced, but deeper le levels of that. And I can’t wait to get there. You know, it’s not just for myself, it’s also for what I’m doing out in the world. So to me, it’s all in one, but there are, there is a separation factor
[00:12:38] Chris: sorts.
Yeah, well see. I’ve always seen you. I don’t, I don’t think that, um, there is that toxic positivity, positivity out there when you see people on social media who are the, um, the word I hate the most these days is influencers in any kind of space that is healing and that kind of stuff. They all always, or a lot of them seem.
Perfect. And that sets a bar of perfection where you can’t have those bad days, which you know, you said like everyone, I get through it and I allow myself to be human. There are a lot of us that don’t allow ourselves to be human, which is why I ask that, because when I get to those spaces, I just, Incredible.
I just pile on more pressure. Mm-hmm. Like I shouldn’t, I’m old enough that I should know better about this. I knew this was coming. I should know how to handle this. There’s all that internal dialogue that kicks in. Hmm. So to allow yourself to do that is, is one of the keys, I guess, to learning, which a lot of, I don’t think a lot of people do.
I think a lot of people, um, or I’ll just speak for myself cuz I don’t like speaking for a lot of people. I don’t know anything about that. But I will say, There are times when I get into the hole that I don’t allow myself to be human, and I don’t say, Hey, it’s just a bad day. We’re gonna get through it, blah, blah, blah.
It just, it all of a sudden becomes a hundred thousand pounds. So then I have to feel like I do more work. You gotta push harder. You gotta do this rather than letting go, which this whole thing about letting go is what I was trying to get to is you, you know, it’s, it’s a big thing these days, right?
Letting go, but you. A spot that, a piece that you did on the myth of letting go, it actually creates more anxiety. Can you talk about that a little bit? Yeah, I’d
[00:14:14] Leah Guy: love to. So I do use words like release or surrender because I think there is an energy within us that we all know that’s about handing over.
And to me that is one of the greatest, as I was saying a moment ago, the trust piece. You know, the handing over parts of ourselves and our feelings and the, and our life experience that we cannot. But this whole verbiage around letting go, it’s really dangerous, I believe, because it, it creates separation in our minds.
It creates this idea that there is us and then there’s this other. And if I can get whatever I don’t like about my experience right now, away from me and over there, then I’m gonna be better. And that idea of separation keeps the mind in a really, Uh, disconnected almost dissociative pattern instead of the recognition that I am me and within me are all the things about life and emotion and experience and so forth.
And if I can hold this with however much gentleness, compassion, integrity that I have. Then I’ll have a sense of connection and togetherness, not separation. In my book, I write about it, like we talk about it as if there’s a cosmic trashcan. You know, it’s like, oh, I’m just gonna let this go, you know, and throw it over there and hit the trashcan, or I’m just gonna let this relationship go.
And in addition to this separate feeling, it’s also kind of, it’s, it’s really the opposite of what most any spiritual tradition teaches. We are all one. We are all connected. There’s no one better or different, right? So this idea of letting go, it’s basically like we’re trying to get rid of something that’s lesser than, or something that we don’t want around us to protect us.
And it’s just a very um, It’s a very, well, like I said, dangerous ideology in my estimation. Um, we can’t be connected in all one and be separate at the same time. And so that’s where the split happens. And then the brain’s going, what’s going on here? So I may not like, let’s say a person or relationship, and it may have been very damaging to me.
I’m not suggesting that we have to stay in the confines of that relationship or with that person to keep activating our abuse or trauma or what have you, but within us, there’s nothing to do about the other person. The only thing to do is to learn how to feel. Feel our feelings and then apply some kind of parenting, soothing, comfort, um, presence to the inner self.
That’s it. And when we’re doing that, we’re focused here. We’re not focused on the other person. We’re not focused on a cosmic trash can. We’re not focused on trying to get away from anything. We’re just focused here. And when I’m focused here, and I’m okay carrying my stuff because it’s my stuff, you know, the RA that happened.
If I’m focused on the rapist, I’m not focused on me. You know, if I’m focused, spending all my time focusing on how to not have that happen again, then I’m not here right now. So if I’m able to carry it and hold it and comfort it and let it, you know, be uncomfortable sometimes, and let it hurt sometimes and, and let it be okay sometimes, then I’m in so much more control, managing myself, managing my mind, managing my feeling.
It’s, um, you know, I see why people don’t wanna do it. There’s a lot of times I don’t wanna do it either. I just know that it’s the best way, you know, uh, you know, I don’t wanna have those little breakdowns where I’m bawling and curled up on the couch crying. But I do, and I need to because that’s emotion that needs to go through.
[00:18:12] Chris: And I think what resonated there with me was the control statement about your, when you, when you are actively dealing with it, you are in control of the versus then it’s happening to you. Yeah. Like you are passively accepting this stuff that you can’t, and so, yeah, I’ve often, I’ve been struggling a lot with this whole concept of letting go because.
You know, I, I, the surrender thing, I, I understand it. Mm-hmm. But it’s so hard to implement because when you are trying to get somewhere, you’re actively trying to get there. Mm-hmm. So you’re pushing, right? You’re, you’re taking classes, you are learning, you’re reading, you’re doing the self-exploration, whatever, however it looks, you’re actively pursuing this path.
But when it comes to surrender, it’s almost like you have to stop doing that and just let it happen. Which confuses the shit outta me because I’m a control freak and I know that I can’t control a lot of things. I know it’s a myth. I understand all that. My, my brain tells me it’s a joke that you think you can control this, but the, the, the interaction between me and myself going, you gotta surrender.
Well, I don’t know how to surrender. You gotta surrender. I don’t know how to surrender. So that’s a really interesting thing about the control, taking control over it and. Just releasing it to let it be what it’s gonna be. Am I completely off base?
[00:19:35] Leah Guy: Well, no, but I wanna add something to that because I, I hear you, and I think a lot of people have the mindset that’s very similar because that’s the way that we’re taught and structured and everything.
But if we take out that word, I have to either do this myself or stop and surrender. And think about this dynamic as a relationship, meaning I don’t think you have to stop going toward because that’s where your heart is leading you. So if there’s a path, your heart is leading you down, your, your inclination, your soul inclination, your heart inclination is to go toward and to do the best in all that you can do toward that path.
And when you’re in a relat, With the divine, with the universe, with energy or whatever it is, nature. Then you can participate in that relationship like a, as a co-creator. And to me that’s what the manifestation piece is about. So I think that that the idea of letting go or surrender or release, it does have this connotation in our language, in our society of stop and do nothing.
But that’s impractical because we don’t live that way. And I believe we are here as humans kind of on a mission. And the only mission that makes sense to me is a heart-based mission. So if you’re on your heart-based mission, then you’re gonna be doing, but while you’re doing that, you can also activate that part of you that comes in relationship to trust and to expect, you know, to trust and expect.
Like last week I’ve been spending. An enormous amount of money. I mean more than I’ve ever spent in my life, like an uncomfortable amount of money. Cuz I went to this public speaking school and then I hired this writer to help me with the movie and silver. And so last week I started getting the fear place, you know, and when we get into fear, we get into control.
We have to, we wanna try to fix it, we wanna do something about it. So I caught myself, I said, okay, I need to get into my higher self or my spiritual self, and. What, what does it look like? What do I need? What am I asking for? And what I said was, I’d feel a little better if I had just a couple grand come in all at once.
You know, just a little hit right now to pay off some of the, this debt. Right? And, and then I said that, and of course there’s still a little fear cause I’m human, but I also feel very aligned with my spirit world. And the next day I found change on the ground, like literally 17 cents. And I was like, okay.
So I mean, anytime I find a penny, you know, I pick it up. I’m, to me it’s like there is enough, there’s resources. The two or three days later, I found $13 on the. And I was like, we are rocking and rolling. And then Sunday I checked my bank account. I had two direct deposits, one from the state of New Jersey for a rebate for owning a home or whatever.
And then this random deposit, which I’ll probably end up having to give back cause I don’t even know who they are from a company that sent me, I accumulated that week. Almost exactly $2,000.
[00:22:50] Chris: It’s my theory of convergence. It’s, I, I have this theory, right? I have this theory and it You just proved it. Yes.
Because I feel like when you, like if you have, uh, if you find a hundred bucks on the ground, Within the week, you’re gonna have a car repair that’s 98 bucks. Yes. And it’s the opposite. Right? But the universe gave you the a hundred bucks. Yeah. So you can’t really be pissed off about the car repair. Right.
And, and that has happened in my life all the time. And I remember my brother one time went to, he lives in New Jersey. He went to the casino one night and just shit’s luck. He just, do you think he put like 20 bucks or something in the. Slot machine or something, and he pulled the handle and he won like six grand.
Wow. And then the next day he got the bill for his daughter’s college and it was like $5,700.
[00:23:42] Leah Guy: Exactly. But this is the game we play with ourselves. You know, if we just really trusted. There was a comedian, and I’m not gonna say his name cuz he is got a bad name in the industry now, so you guys can guess which one of the three.
But I, I saw one of his sh shows and he had a very simple line. He’s like, you know how, how idiotic we are when everything that we need is literally right outside of our door, everything that we need. We make the rest of this shit up. I mean, that is the truth. Everything we need is right there. We’ve got the water, we’ve got the food, we’ve got the land, we’ve got the sun, we’ve got the air.
We’ve got, we know how to make fire. We’ve made up everything else and because of that, we keep ourselves in this re recurring loop of misery. It’s really something.
[00:24:26] Chris: Yeah. And well, and that’s the perfect time for me to mention a quote that I love that you said that our Dr uh, Bradley Nelson was on your podcast, which if anyone is interested to hear more of Leah.
Um, she has, she is the creator and host of the Modern Sage podcast, and Dr. Bradley Nelson was on there and he said, the subconscious mind is a computer. It knows exactly what’s wrong with you, and it knows exactly what we need to do. It has all of the answers. Yes. Yeah. So I think that’s really interesting.
I think, uh, and I believe it more and more and more, and just like you said, as far as the, um, the world outside. It’s true. It’s all there. The only thing in our way is us. And I know that for a fact as far as myself, it’s just, it’s, it’s cool to watch it start to transform. I feel like I’m in this moment, which I felt one other time in my life back in 2002 just prior to meeting you when I was the, we had September 11th happened.
Um, and I was going through a divorce. I was in a horrible marriage and this, I felt this moment, click. And I remember sitting in my car at a traffic light thinking, this is one of these moments, you better remember like where whatever happens, this is one of those moments that you just feel the wheel clicking.
Yeah. And I’m, I just felt that again, like this past Christmas Eve, like I just felt this click and I remember standing there thinking the same thing. You better remember this moment because it’s that transition that just kind of clicked in.
[00:25:59] Leah Guy: That’s awesome. Well, I’m excited for you. I can sense it too, not to get into your personal business, but, um, we can later.
[00:26:07] Chris: Well, I want to talk about, um, God, I want to talk about this concept of, you said you were, and I don’t know if I’m jumping too far ahead, but we talked about this concept of the darkness that we all have been through, right? And using it to create the light. Mm-hmm. And I remember when I was a kid, my grandfather used to make wine in the basement.
He used to skim what they called the flowers off the top of the wine because it was the yeast that was coming to the top, and if you didn’t skim it off, it would ruin the wine. So I carried that through my life as far as. Uh, when I was making music, uh, when I made my records, the, the songs that I wrote, I was always attracted to the dark love stories.
The dark side of I never wrote happy songs. Happy songs are boring, but, um, I, I, I used that analogy to skim off the darkness that was in me and it put it in my music. But then what you end up doing is creating a persona, the public persona, that you are this dark person. Mm-hmm. Instead of. It’s just the work.
And you get the work, you get that out of you, and you let it go into the, off, into the ether or whatever, and you march on. So what are you working on in that space? Can you talk about it or is it too, uh, yeah,
[00:27:24] Leah Guy: no, I can talk, I can talk a little about it. Um, so I love this topic and it’s a, it’s a relatively deep topic, but it’s kind of simple in a way.
And you did a great job of just summing it up. You know when you were, when we first started talking, you said this place that you’re in right now and there’s some discomfort there, I would argue that you’re probably in a little darkness right now because that’s what that feels like. You know, the darkness isn’t a bad place, and it’s not just always the dark night of the soul when we’re going through that, although it can be, I believe each of us has the well, The, the dark, the shadow aspects of ourselves and the light.
You know, that doesn’t mean we’re all evil and good. That’s the judgmental mind that wants to say that. There’s all elements within us. But when we think about the darkness as the place of creation, the place of birth, it is, as I just wrote a speech about this, it’s the incubator of our creativity. It’s in the dark of the night.
Our bodies heal there, you know, our minds are stored in the dark. Um, there’s so much li life comes from the dark. It’s only when an obstacle is in the way of light that we see it, right? So if there was no obstacle, we don’t even witness light. So there’s this, I think it’s probably started and, and don’t quote me on this cuz I’m terrible with history.
You know, religiously and historically with the Christian faith or whatever, faith from before with the demons and the devils and the underworld and so forth, this terrible connotation with evil and darkness. To me, the darkness is the richest place to be and it, because it’s from that place that we evolve.
And so my last three years, you know, right at Covid unknowingly about Covid, I bought this house. And I ended up moving to a, a new town. I didn’t know anyone and it’s in the woods. And my neighbors were literally mentally ill. They’ve now since passed. And I was here by myself and the house had a lot of energy in the house, a lot of spears at 1838 house.
And I found myself, um, facing. Some really old fears, some really old, crazy beliefs. Some stuff I’ve worked on, you know, 30, 40 years ago, some current stuff, you know, and just surface level where I felt like I was, um, I don’t wanna make it sound bleep because there’s been plenty of beautiful things happen here, but there was a lot.
Time for me to be in this place at the moment. I wouldn’t have called it darkness, I would’ve called it, um, really hard work. You know, really hard stuff. And again, this, I, to me, it’s an invitation. It was an invitation, absolutely. To be with myself. You know, what comes out of this, you know, who are you? And that’s where I, I think, Everyone’s avoiding because it’s hard.
It is hard, and it’s a little uncomfortable and it’s scary sometimes, but everyone wants to know who they are and everyone wants to know what their purpose is and what they’re capable of and the depths of their heart and heal all the stuff that’s got ’em twisted up. But it’s. It’s often that we gotta go to that place, you know?
And that place looks different for everyone. It could be a million different things for me, it was a haunted house in the woods in New Jersey. But you know, it can be a million different reasons. It can be an age, it can be a loss, it can be a time period. It can be hormones, it can be a divorce, it can be a new job.
It can be a zillion things that bring you to this place. Where you can only see yourself, nothing but yourself or nothing but nothingness, the unknown. And, and in that invitation we’re asked a lot of really important questions. So that’s what I’m working on. I’m working on a film, I’m working on speech, and I’m not sure yet how that’s going to transform in my healing work, but
[00:31:37] Chris: that’s what’s going well.
I think Covid, I think Covid did that to, to everyone. I think Covid pushed us all to a place that we. Maybe needed to go, but none of us wanted to go there. Yeah. And did that force, you, you had this big career shift at when you turned 50. You talked about that a little bit. Did that, was that the onus for this is that you just finished, you just went through a big public school, uh, public speaking school.
You just got certified in all of that. You’re working on a screenplay. You talked about, we’ll talk a little bit about that, but was that the onus for this? Like, did you just all of a sudden feel like you needed to till the soil and flip it all over and start. Because that switching gears at 50 is hard.
I’m, I’m doing it now. And it’s, it’s so hard because when you’re young, you’re full of piss and vinegar and you just, you know, you don’t know what you don’t know, and then all of a sudden you do know what you don’t know.
[00:32:28] Leah Guy: Exactly. Yeah. I mean, I, I think I felt it coming. I, I’m a big believer in, I live in living in chapters meaning, Maybe it’s my personality, maybe it’s my whatever.
It doesn’t matter. But I like to do things and then be, and then when I feel like I’ve gotten everything out of it or have given everything to it that I can, I move on. And so and so when I left the city, I knew that. I wanted things to change, but I didn’t really know how. And then of course, yeah, COVID happened and then, you know, I had to rethink everything and, and all that.
And, um, to me, this is kind of a homecoming. It’s like, I, I want, I’ve always, as you know, I’ve loved to work in the media and, and I’ve never done this. I’d love to learn. I love to challenge myself. And, um, it felt, it felt like it was time, but it was, I could only do it because I. Faced the, the darkness day in and day out for many days.
And I say that and it sounds kind of silly for a 50 year old woman to be even something like, you know, stay in a house alone at night kind of thing. But with my background, and also I think maybe a lot of people are probably scared to stay in a big house by themselves in the woods. Um, you know, there was a lot of different layers to work through.
So because of that, I was able to, I guess is what I wanna. You know, I think a lot of people try to make big changes and I’m, I wouldn’t say that they’re not ready, but it’s, you know, we have to look at all those different layers of ourselves, you know, and are we supported enough in those places? It’s still uncomfortable.
I mean, I don’t know what’s coming down the pike.
[00:34:15] Chris: Yeah. Well, it’s interesting because, you know, if you look at the. Cycles, seven year cycles of life that Rudolph Steiner developed back in the, you know, early 20th century. He, um, he claims that the years between 49 and 56 are the spiritual awakening years.
Mm-hmm. Right. So that’s, it’s, I’m doing a piece on that, um, a solo piece on that. So, and it really coincides with this because when you said, you know, career shift at 50 and, um, I was just, it’s just amazing how it all lines. Right. It’s just, it’s so funny and I too feel like we, I have the same exact interpretation about life being chapters when I’m done with something and I’ve, I’ve pretty much gotten everything I think I needed to get from it.
They, it’s like a booster rocket on a rocket ship. They just kind of fall away. Yeah. It got me to the next, it got me to the next atmosphere, but then they go away because, um, and I don’t know how it happens. Why it just happens. It’s like a little switch just kind of goes, and I’m, I’m kind of done with that energy and it’s like, what, what’s next?
Yeah. So, um, what is this, um, screenplay you’re working on? Can you talk about it?
[00:35:28] Leah Guy: Yeah, sorta. Well, it’s about the house. It’s about, it’s a, a, a story of hope and healing and it, it’s a true life story and I’ve learned that those only have to be about 5% accurate, but mine’s more like 90% accurate. Um, so we look at some of the traumas that this young woman went through as flashbacks and, you know, see the current day version, which is not the exact version of myself, but, um, and, and she.
What, what I, the, the pitch that I used to get interest on it was, it’s like, um, under the Tuscan Sun meets Amadou, the who, you know, this woman thinks she do one thing nice and then she’s doing something else, you
[00:36:13] Chris: know? So, and who’s playing Leah guy? I don’t know yet, yet. I dunno. Who do you want? If in a perfect world, do you know?
I don’t have
[00:36:24] Leah Guy: any thought. Okay. Do you have any ideas? Lemme know cause I, I’m not very,
[00:36:27] Chris: oh, man. Yeah, I totally, I I could totally, you know, I think Mia, um, uh, Marissa Tome could do a really good job playing you. Oh, interesting. Yeah. That’s a good choice. I think she’s a badass. I think she’s a badass. She’s, she’s under the radar now too, but, um, yeah.
I don’t know why that just, I don’t know why that just popped into my head, but that’s who popped into my head. No, that’s a good one. Yeah. And so, um, before I let you go, what else are you work Go ahead. I’m sorry,
[00:36:54] Leah Guy: I didn’t Oh, no, you’re saying I just, I wanna have a little cameo in it and that’s it. I already know the part I wanna play,
[00:36:59] Chris: but Good.
You have to. Yeah, you have to. Yeah. Cool. I’ll be a taxi driver. If you need a cab driver or anything. Hook me up. Come on. Yeah. Um. What are you, um, what are you excited about? What’s coming up? What, um, I’ll give all your socials in the, um, outro. I will put all of where everyone can find you. Of course they can find you email@example.com, but you’ve got Instagram, you’ve got Facebook at Leah Guy Live.
You’ve got, um, um, YouTube channel with all of your stuff. And of course you’ve got the Modern Sage podcast. But what, um, what’s coming up for Leah Guy? This, what’s, what’s going. Well,
[00:37:34] Leah Guy: mostly you’re excited to talk about. Yeah, mostly just focused on this movie and I love to teach and so I teach on Inside Timer every other week.
I love those. I teach retreat retreats and workshops. I always get jazzed up about, you know, working with people. So that consistently fills my cup and I always look forward to it. And outside of that, besides writing projects, you know, I don’t know. I’m a public speaker now. What does that mean? I guess I need to go find some places to talk.
[00:38:02] Chris: I need to put on my, I don’t think that’s gonna be hard. I don’t think that’s gonna be difficult for you. I don’t know. I, I think, I don’t know. I, I, I’ve loved watching it. I, I’ve loved, I’m fascinated. I think it’s great. Before I let you go, I’m gonna do, I’ve got a new thing I’m gonna do, and you’re the first one who’s gonna be under the gun with it.
So, It’s my five questions for strong coffees for strong women. So, um, I’m gonna put you on the spot here. There are nothing, nothing revealing or there’s no ambush moments, but it just, um, I’m curious and I think it’d be kind of fun. So, um, number one is, tell me one thing that you love about yourself. Hmm.
[00:38:46] Leah Guy: I love, um, My creative way of looking at life.
[00:38:53] Chris: Nice. Number two, what skill do you wish you had or were better at
Marketing. Me too. I, but I hate marketing. My wife does it. I hate it. She, she hates talking to me about it. So, um, number three, something in that house you should throw away immediately, but you’re not gonna,
[00:39:21] Leah Guy: uh, the Dear Antlers at the back door.
[00:39:24] Chris: Oh, no way. Awesome.
All right. What number four, what song do you sing at the top of your lungs? Whenever possible, if no one’s
[00:39:35] Leah Guy: watching, oh boy. I get some stuck in my head now. I’m not gonna be able to remember them. Um, what’s that one? I know, I don’t know. I’m not
[00:39:45] Chris: there. I’m not in your head. Leah,
[00:39:47] Leah Guy: um, uncle Cracker, you know, drift away.
I sometimes I, I, to crank that, I like what? I like it when songs break it down, you know, and they, and it is just the, the, the lyrics and the downbeat or whatever. So any song that does that, I, I get into the.
[00:40:04] Chris: Yeah, there’s no need to clarify. It’s just Leah, this is a moment. These are five little moments of Leah that we, that I just get little nuggets, so, and number five, I’ll let you off the hook.
Gimme a strong female who inspires you or inspired you in the past.
[00:40:17] Leah Guy: Oh, wow. Well, of course Oprah with her show inspired me. Mm-hmm. Um, that’s a great one. Yeah. And now actually the woman that I just took this training from, her name is Amy Port. Um, she’s a beautiful woman, teacher, trainer, holds space boundary.
Like just outta this world, I’ve got a woman crush.
[00:40:37] Chris: Cool. Yeah. Well, I am so thrilled you were here today. It was great to see your face and just hear what’s going on with you. And thanks for your mission. Thanks for everything you’re doing for everyone. You’re helping people, thousands and thousands of people around the world get through some tough times, and I’m thrilled to watch you soar the way you have.
So, um, I just will keep following and I wish you all the best. You gotta come back and do this again. I’d
[00:41:01] Leah Guy: love to. Thanks so much, Chris. It’s great to see you too.
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